The difference is that I’m married to a football coach and it’s football season.
We take football season very seriously in our house. It’s our livelihood. It’s not just a game to us. Football season means a typical day for my husband starts with him leaving the house at 6:45a.m. and returning home just before midnight. It means long weekends on the road for away games. It means not only does my husband worry about the well-being of his own son, but he worries and looks after all of his football players as his own. Other families have trusted him to take care of their “babies.” He owes it to them to stay true to his word, even if it does mean missing time away from his own family.
I’m not writing this for you to feel sorry for me. I definitely don’t need pity.
I chose my husband and I chose this football life.
I’m writing this so that you will understand what it’s really like being married to a coach and what it’s really like to raise a football family. I want to raise awareness for the strong women who support their coaching husbands, work hard for their families and still manage their full-time role as mom.
I want to give encouragement to the new football girlfriend, wife or mom that is wondering how she will ever do it all alone during football season.
Today is Sunday, September 4, 2016. One week ago, I didn’t know how I was going to survive my first week back to work with an 8-week-old baby during football season. Not only was it my first week back to work, it was also the first week my husband would leave our family for the first away game of the season, in another state.
Instead of feeling miserable and tired like I imagined, I actually feel like the most empowered woman in the world!
Not only did I survive my first week back to work, I managed to thrive. It’s not easy and it may not be pretty, but I really do believe we can “have it all.”
Here’s is what I learned my first week back to work:
“I can do all this through him who gives me strength.” – Philippians 4:13
Here is what they said:
Don’t stress if the house isn’t clean. Pick up here and there during the week and save the big stuff for the weekend. You’ve worked all day. Give yourself a break!
When the going gets tough….lean on your fellow coaches’ wives. They are the only ones who truly know what you are going through and they will be there for you if you let them.
When you’re by yourself and you feel like you’re doing it all alone, don’t resent your husband. Know that your husband is making a difference every day in a child’s or young adult’s life. Know that it’s hard for him to be away from you and your family. He needs support too.
Give yourself some credit! You are a strong woman and you should be proud of yourself. Take pride in your work and your role as a wife (and/or) mom. It’s hard work being a mom and working every day, much less during football season. You deserve that cup of Starbucks, a glass of wine or a mani-pedi.
Do something that makes you happy!
Disclaimer: Cheers to you hard-working wives and moms!